Weekly-ish missives from Heidi Fischbach, a nervous system coach who believes in science, takes most things with a grain of salt (probably Maldon, preferably smoked), and practices joy as resistance.
A little something between issues {The Awarewithall #21 ½ ?}
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The Awarewithall | Heidi Fischbach
Weekly-ish missives from Heidi Fischbach, a nervous system coach who believes in science, takes most things with a grain of salt (probably Maldon, preferably smoked), and practices joy as resistance.
In 2025, I could feel my anxiety increasing. And like that proverbial frog in a pot of water getting hotter, as the year went on it became harder to quit patterns that were actively making things worse. On one hand, I could say my anxiety was about everything happening here in the US, and that would be true. But on the other, it was about how much I was consuming—information, news, stuff—all of which had in common one thing: scrolling on my phone. Basically, I was at the mercy of an algorithm...
I follow Aaron Parnas on Substack, a young independent journalist who's constantly reporting breaking news—usually bad. Except on Sundays when he posts "Good News Only." In my nervous system program, we do something similar. Only we don't limit it to Sundays. Glimmers and Celebrations is how we begin pretty much every meeting or session—private 1:1 coaching, groups, Wednesday Listening and Co-Regulation Labs, Nervous System Playgrounds, masterclasses… This isn't about pretending hard things...
Early in our relationship, my now-husband and I were sitting on his loveseat (I still thought of it that way — haha) in our second-floor apartment in Arlington, Massachusetts, both of us trying hard to be polite, wrapping our defensiveness in civility. (Oof! Can you feel it?) Jeffrey was going through a divorce. I was 47, a new stepmom who was somewhere between still wanting, and grieving not having, a child of my own. Talk about love. And talk about landmines. I don't even remember what the...